Crisis Love Bags Fundraiser

Sharing for My dear friend and Sista Advocate Deana M Dixon as she raises funds for Crisis Love Bags for Domestic Violence Victims. Please Share & Help this amazing advocate in any way you can. Thanks!


“I want to make crisis love bags (backpacks) for Victims of Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault. Each bag will be filled with essentials to start their journey. Each bag will have a change of clothes, toiletries, a coffee mug and a pack of coffee. The children will have the same except they will have a stuffie and crayons with a coloring book. (age appropriate).”

Each bag will have Information and Resources.

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UnMasked and UnMasked GOLD Edition

UnMasked and UnMasked GOLD Edition 

Also available in eBook format

by Northern Books



Advocate/Activist/Author/Actor and Survivor Lee Roberts

As an advocate people tend to forget there is more to us than meets the eye. We are husbands, wives, parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, sisters and brothers. Although advocacy is never ending, at the end of the day, we too go home to our loved ones.

After a decade of working with some of the top influential advocates in the country, we proposed the question,

“What is something in your life people would not really know?”

The goal was to unmask each advocate, as an individual, in a personal light with their family, friends and loved ones; allowing the public to see for the first time the individual behind the mask of an advocate.

These raw and unedited poems, short stories, thoughts and letters of beautifully penned stories of hope, loss, pain, healing, inspiration, love, sorrow, courage and strength illuminate the unexpected twists and turns of life’s hurdles that later become known as our blessings.

Now, join us and share the personal stories and discover the extraordinary lives of the men and women who protect and serve our most precious.

ALL proceeds go to abused children and homeless organizations.

Featured Writers include;

Patricia McKnight, Donna Kshir, Lee Roberts, Deana Dixon, Mark Palmer, Patrick Dati, Joshua Murphy, Mike Pistorino, Jane Alvarez, Mashanna Bachuss-Waggoner, Terry Rink, Sharon Young, Warren Van Gaasbeck, Star Myers, Bob Shank,, Isabelle Esling and Pastor Darick Biondi.




Chicago advocate, public speaker and survivor Patrick Dati.


The goal was to unmask some of the most prominent advocates from around the globe, as an individual, in a personal light with their family, friends and loved ones behind closed doors; allowing the public to see for the first time the individual behind the mask of an advocate.

Roberts’ hand selected two of Kshir’s works. The first piece will capture you heart as she pens the importance of keeping one’s faith in God. The second piece says goodbye to a decade old friendship. In Roberts’ words “Donna’s heartfelt words will leave you breathless.”

The cover features Chicago advocate, public speaker and survivor Patrick Dati. As a child, Dati was bullied by his older brothers and raped at 9 years old by serial killer John Wayne Gacy.

Both women spoke highly of Dati. ‘It takes courage to stand up and be who you are, to be true to oneself. Patrick is not only a survivor, but an incredible inspiration to all male survivors across the globe. We are honored to choose Patrick for this special gold edition cover of UnMasked. We are also blessed to call him our friend.”

The collection includes raw and unedited poems, personal stories, thoughts and letters of beautifully penned stories of hope, loss, pain, healing, inspiration, love, sorrow, courage and strength to discover the extraordinary lives of the men and women who protect and serve our most precious; our children.

‘UnMasked’ is available in paperback and eBook formats at Walmart, Kmart, Amazon, Barnes and Nobles, and other fine brick and mortar stores.  ALL proceeds are being donated to abused children and homeless organizations. For more information, visit, Northern Books Online Bookstore!!


Update on Lakota’s journey…

Lakota is sleeping more, as expected. . He is weaker, not wanting to really eat much anymore. He has been going to the bathroom (pooping) it seems nearly non stop when he isn’t resting. I know that is wearing him out too bless his heart. Me, I am so far beyond exhausted and hanging on by a thread here.
I am right behind him cleaning up and mopping. When he goes he is losing more blood in his stool. I have to follow him when he gets up to go to make sure he doesn’t eat it…he has reverted to primal instinct here the past week with that…I know that his time is coming very near.  I know that Otis knows too and he whines looking at Lakota then to me and back to Lakota. An appointment is set for this Friday, September 2, 2016 with our vet where I will have the honor of escorting my precious Lakota to the Rainbow Bridge where Maximillian, Cougar 7 toes, Boo-Boo, Eskimo and other special friends await him.
If you can assist us with the funds for this journey it would be tremendously appreciated. You can also donate directly to Lakota’s account with Dr. Donald Pyle at the Animal Health Center here in Crestview, FL.  
Thank you all so very much for your ongoing prayers, donations, shares and love for my precious loving boy ❤

Innocent benefactor

She remembers the old red barn just a few houses up the road. She recalls with clarity every detail surrounding the incomprehensible horror that transpired decades ago and wishes she could consign it to oblivion. She remembers the two girls who sat back cheering and laughing as that group of boys brought this terrified girl to the barn floor with fright and tears in her eyes. Why? What? NO!!!   Her eyes screamed, pleading for help searching the sidelines where those two girls sat watching and laughing.  She could not understand Why they brought her here to allow this to happen and Why they would not help her.

In flashbacks she recalls the hands, many hands as they began touching her, grabbing her female flesh everywhere…Their dirty grinning faces laughing as they took her in turn…her silent screams fell onto deafened ears and no one came to her rescue.  A waterfall of tears streaming down her cheeks mattered not to the hands making their way under her shirt and down her jeans as they swarmed around her like bees to a hive full of honey.

She was fourteen years old then but not a foreigner to abuse as her own father had been making night visits for many years. She knew nothing of boundaries, no healthy love from him.  He was that “monster in the closet” and all she ever longed for was his love…

Commencing with him, then the associates, the undeniable terrors began…Her body was supposed to belong to her but it seemed to belong to everyone else.  He along with the associates,  taught her that her feelings did not matter, what she desired did not matter and when she said No – it did not matter…

Growing up was hell, more like torture. Everywhere she turned boys wanted to touch her, put their hands on her in in appropriate ways, and they did, often.  Did they not know how very wrong this was? She would be the benefactor of their consequences, the innocent one who would remember in nightmares and flashbacks with crystal clarity the sheer terror of her youth.  A nightmare relived nearly every single night for decades.

Decades would pass before she would ever understand that none of this was her fault. She walked through life with no self-esteem for she was told she was ugly, called names because this flower blossomed very early as a young woman and for reasons only those who bullied her knew …

It would take decades for her to learn how beautiful and valued she was…and to find forgiveness, which was a monumental feat in itself for she swore to hate them all for eternity….it was in the Forgiveness of them all that she has discovered the way to Freedom~


Who Am I?

The essay below was one of three I wrote for my English Comp class in the mid 1990’s and written within the parameters given to us for the course. Keep in mind how much time has passed and the statistics that have changed since then. 

Who Am I?

The lingering aftermath that incest has on the adult female survivor encompasses all facets of her existence. How is incest defined and what are the distortions impressed upon the survivor regarding the issues of intimacy and sexuality? How can these warped perceptions be conquered?

Incest has been described as a cancer of the soul that slowly destroys the victim’s self esteem. Incest is a betrayal of trust involving sexual, verbal or physical actions either directly or indirectly between a child and a trusted adult and/or authority figure. Fondling, exhibitionism and masturbation with or in front of the child are but a few examples of this treachery. This leaves the victim with little or no self esteem.

Statistics are shocking; one out of every three females and one of every five males has been abused as a child. The effects are no less destructive on males yet I have chosen to write from a female perspective.

Sexual abuse unconsciously influences how a survivor perceives herself and how she feels regarding all aspects of sex including; natural sexual feelings, sexual expression, roles, intimacy and sexual preference. There is tremendous difficulty in separating abusive sex from healthy sex. As a result of the abuse, the survivor sees herself as damaged goods and suffers from a poor sexual self-concept. Sexual preference itself is not a negative affect of the abuse to be overcome. It’s the confusion about preference having been complicated by the abuse that can be troublesome.

Sexual Behavior

Abuse shatters our capacity for healthy sex. Sexual expression may now be associated with secrecy and shame. Many survivors withdraw from sex, thereby preventing any fresh discovery of healthy sex. Others may become promiscous. Not knowing any physical boundaries in sex has created confusion on when or even how to be sexual and she may engage in risky behavior and have sex even when she really does not want to. Difficulty in saying no to unwanted touch, the survivor may avoid any situation that could lead to sex.

Intimate Relationships

Abuse influences a survivor’s capacity to establish and maintain healthy sexual relationships which also interferes with her ability to make healthy choices for herself. Survivors are unable to trust and feel safe with intimate partners who do care.


Abuse is something that is done to us. It is not who we are. (Euan Bear and Peter Dimok, authors of Adults Molested as Children) Sexual abuse can cause many survivors to question their orientation (preference). They may wonder the sexual abuse determines their present orientation. Sexual abuse harms the way we feel about our attractiveness, leaving us to feel negative about our gender or causing increased confusion about our sexual orientation (lesbian,gay,straight or bi-sexual). The issue of sexual orientation can be confusing enough for many people who have no history of abuse. Try, to imagine what a survivor must think, or how confused she feels.


Gender identity and sexual orientation are complex matters even without sexual abuse in the picture. They can be strongly influenced by any number of factors. Biology, upbringing, sexual experiences and cultural influences are only a sampling of those factors. Abuse can both encourage development of a particular orientation and impede another. Some survivors move towards the role they had to play in the abuse and others move far away.

If you are a survivor who questions her own sexual orientation remember, All your feelings are valid. They are yours and no person can tell you how to feel or what to think. Our acceptance of selves, not what others think is all that really matters. The following is a perfect way to end this paper and I hope you have been enlightened.

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to tell one from the other.” (anonymous)


Did You Know?

We know that the numbers will always be incorrect due to multiple reasons. Not all child abuse is reported. Not all child abuse is discovered.  Abusers put fear into the children, threatening harm to their pet, their mom or dad (unless it is a parent who is the abuser) and they tell them that no one will ever believe them if they try to tell. Many times the abuse comes to light when a victim/survivor is healing and in a safe place mentally to work through the nightmare maze of memories.

I remember finally getting brave enough to tell an adult and was taken to the family doctor. After his examination of me he told my mom that “it’s just an irritation” and so no call was made to any agency, no one rescued me…I continued to be abused, sexually assaulted and the monster came with regularity for many years…

I am now speaking out about my abuse, my healing and adding my voice to thousands out there for the children who cannot speak for themselves…I know I will, and have, lost friends and even have family members who will not speak to me but I can remain silent no longer…

Stand up and Speak Out for the children. If you suspect abuse, make the call..Your call could very well be the only one and the one that saves a child’s life.

Child abuse can be physical, verbal, emotional, sexual, and neglect. Child abuse leaves scars that last a lifetime…

Due to the length of time it takes for the information to be gathered, compiled, analyzed and published it can take approximately two years to publish the data. By then it is outdated and new information has been gathers and is in process of being processed for publication.  (Child Welfare Information Gateway)

The statistics are literally mind numbing.  We want to STOP child abuse Before it starts. Education and awareness are KEY to Prevention… 

Did you know:

One in three girls and one in six boys Will be sexually abused Before they turn 18

Only 1 in 10 will tell

There are over 42 million survivors of sexual abuse in America.

Somewhere between 2/3 and ninety percent of sexual abuse victims never tell !!!

293,000 children and youth are estimated to be at risk of exploitation.

100,000 are prostituted annually.

90% are abused by someone they know, love or trust.

20% of child sexual abuse victims are under the age of 8 .. most never tell, and some don’t recall the abuse.

More then 60% of pregnant teens have been sexually abused.

55% of girls living on the streets engage in prostitution.

20% of prostituted girls are transported across state lines for services.

The average age of entry for girls into prostitution is 12 to 14 years old.

One in 7 children who are regular Internet users receive sexual solicitations online.

1 in 3 is exposed to unwanted sexual material.

1 in 25 receives a request to meet someone in real life that they met online.

800,000 children are reported missing every year in the U.S. or 2,000 every day.

An estimated 200,000 are abducted by family members; 58,000 by non family members, the primary motive for which is sexual.

In the most serious cases, the child is abducted by a stranger and killed, held for ransom, or taken with the intention to keep.


National Child Abuse Statistics

• A report of child abuse is made every ten seconds.

• Almost five children die every day as a result of child abuse. More than three out of four are under the age of 4.

• It is estimated that between 60-85 percent of child fatalities due to maltreatment are not recorded as such on death certificates.

• 90 percent of child sexual abuse victims know the perpetrator in some way; 68 percent are abused by family members.

• Child abuse occurs at every socioeconomic level, across ethnic and cultural lines, within all religions and at all levels of education.

• 31 percent percent of women in prison in the United States were abused as children.

• Over 60 percent of people in drug rehabilitation centers report being abused or neglected as a child.

• About 30 percent of abused and neglected children will later abuse their own children, continuing the horrible cycle of abuse.

• About 80 percent of 21 year olds that were abused as children met criteria for at least one psychological disorder.

• The estimated annual cost of child abuse and neglect in the United States for 2007 is $104 billion.

• Abused children are 25 percent more likely to experience teen pregnancy.

• Abused teens are times less likely to practice safe sex, putting them at greater risk for STDs.

 A Powerful Video by Children’s  Advocate Kathylee Forrester about Child Abuse Awareness and HOPE. The beautiful song  in the video is written and performed by Keith Dudley. Kathylee is the creator of Patches the Bear and his 8 Emotion Face Helpers for children.

Please visit Patches Kids and learn more Kathylee Forrester “AngelicPreneur” & Creator of Patches the Bear and how Patches is helping children all over the world 🙂

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